Mastering The Boredom

Is boredom our friend or a foe?

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Everyone feels bored now and again because it's in our nature. This isn't a toxic thing to avoid, even we try, it ends up with a failure. This is because boredom is an emotion and fighting with an emotion is like turning on the self destruction mode. 

When we talk about boredom it  seems like there is a connection between the loneliness and the boredom. But these aren't the same ever, they are like the two faces of the coin which will never be on the display at the same time.

Boredom will not cause the feeling of loneliness as it appears and loneliness isn't the reason for the boredom.

When we are in the crowd and may feel bored because we are not interested being there, we are not alone there but still boredom exists. Whenever we are alone and feel it completely then we seek an option to get engaged with. It is not the boredom behind in that case.

We may have heard some really scary news about the boredom like it cut years off from our lifespan and it is the reason for various health issues like anxiety, hypertension and all other stress related syndromes. They are all true but only if we see 'feeling bored' as a problem which we can't get over it. As it is mentioned earlier, boredom is not a disease to fight but an emotion. And never dare to fight an emotion, doing so it will create the worst problems we ever faced.

Then how can we overcome an emotion like boredom without going against it? The only way is to see the benefits in it.

There are few personalities who honed boredom as a craft

So it's our time now to include in those few. Generally boredom is seen mostly in the persons who are constantly thinking for new experiences. Like not being in a state of comfortable mind with the situations around and expecting much more. This will eventually lead us to the maximum boredom, of course we may all have the attitude like this. But don't panic we are unique and our uniqueness will gift us with success someday.

The other group in which boredom is seen is those who fears to the world and shuts them away from it. They creates a comfort zone and tends to live in it, once the comfort zone is breached then comes the struggle.

Then how to get rid of being victimized by the boredom? The best answer is, treat it as a friend but not as a foe. Adventures are born from the boredom we have and it is a complete privacy compartment, where there is no need to display a DND board. Boredom is the freedom to explore, ideas will pile up in us when we are alone, the most memorable and greatest inventions are done only in the boredom. Because they felt like 'this isn't enough, let's do more' and that 'do more' motto became their mate. Who gave them all these? Boredom.

Cultivation of mindfulness is possible when we are bored. It is a doorway to explore ourselves. Most of the times we spend the time on comparing with others and dreaming and trying to be like someone. When boredom knocks our door, we step aside from the walking in others shoes and try to make our own. This is what boredom does. This is a way to drive away the awkwardness from us and unbound all those restrictions which aren't with any evidence. Failures try to make up your mind with booster of a 'give up' shout but when we develop a 'Never give up' it runs away from us.

But there is one thing about the boredom. It is a good friend also a baddest enemy if we misuse it. Do not try to find the solution to get out of the boredom by alcohol,drugs and other kinds of temporary reliefs. They will turn us into cowards and damage us completely. Hence, use the boredom only in a positive way. It needs a lot of practice and when we learn it, we can manipulate it.

So from today, let's take an oath. Whenever boredom rings the bell, open the door and meet up. Use it as a mentor, as a good friend. Do not fear or say 'awwh this boredom' but say 'waww this moment'.

Because when we see the positivity in it eventually we fall in love with boredom.