How To Be A REAL And TRUE Friend

Friendship is the only thing that which is offered to any person irrespective of age, sex and location. It doesn't know the status and class, all are one in friendship.

This is the best thing to rejoice when we are complete in it. And the rest will feel alone without it.

Friends_ the people who never let us to be free, a good advisers and mockers too. We can categorize the friends we have based upon their habits and behavioral acts.

Good friends, bad friends, party hook-ups, cheaters, gamblers and back stabbers. Whoever they are, they are in our friends list.

This makes no difference in our lives when any attachments with the above categories are struck with time. But, when coming to a best friend all the calculations changes. We can't let our best to go all alone, we can't let them aside during our personal meetings. And we always try to feel their presence. No matter how much disturbance the best cause you, you feel like it is not a disturbance. Our best breach our privacy and it's okay! Because that much affectionate we are towards our best friend.

Life is a roller-coaster, there is no guarantee in it. Situations that are hard to digest will show up eventually in our lives. Then definitely this will influence the best friends. When one is good going and the other is struggling, you both are so close friends. It doesn't matter here since the problem seem mountainous go our eyes and when a friend approach and give a free advice it will burn you with fire. There at that place, at that time there will be no limits to our anger. We forget it all we can't wait to deliver pile of words (mostly hurtful) and try to cause the minimum damage to the opposite person. We are not in a situation to recognize to whom we are talking to during such situations.

These are the roads, where our best becomes worst

All we need to do is an escape during such situations. And the truth is we cannot. We are not blocked by any love and respect here, our attitude flee away from us. This is definitely not our mistake, so does it is not our bests'.

Let's come to the point directly, when disputes occurs among the best friends, it is the worst case scenario. More war and more hatred than the enemies, it will rage the fire every single minute when either of the bests think about the cause.

This is due to the fact that, both friends are close friends. They know about each other very well in every section of their lives. They know each others positives and negatives, strengths and weaknesses. This leads to the clarity on both, thereby boosting the fire to fight. But, this is not a real friend is intended to do to his/her best staying calm when the best is at worst is a mind game.

Your patience will prevent your best from becoming the beast

Patience and understanding will clear up all the quarrels. If you keep on bothering your friend it will make the problem more sensitive and tangible. The relationship between the two will lose the elasticity and ends up in breaking the bond.

Years of friendship will go to the fights with few words. Using those words at the right time will keep the friendship.

There are some factors which will help us to be as REAL FRIENDS, in my journey of this life, I learnt them from the personal experiences and listening from others and by reading. Those factors are the best blocks to build the friendship and stay with it. Let's see what are they__

PRIVACY

Generally friends neglect this term. But, it is important to know that everyone of us got some private. We cannot accept the public to see through the key-hole and breach that privacy. Even both life long mates has their privacies  preserved. This is also necessary in friendship, because two persons thinking will never agree all the time. During that time, this private life is a good mate. Don't publicize the inner in you, don't try to break the privacy of your best. Since the best is same like you.

DOMINATING

Whether it's a joke or seriously, a dominating behaviour is injurious to the relationships. It will corrupt the love and increase the hatred. Makes the opposite person to feel insecure while conversing.

Do not try to dominate your friend in any manner. He is the best, you are his best. Be in the limits so that it helps both of you to create a new life.

OVER CARING

Caring is limited to some extent. When someone is off the mood and he is doing something which hurting him, the other first try to explain him, later have to notice the reaction from him. If he is agreeing to your suggestions and leaving what he is  doing, then well and good. If not, it is the time to create a space by stopping the caring words. Because sometimes over caring is allergic.

JUDGING

Many gaps are seen in a frienship due to the judging behaviour. We must never be extremely cynical about others, judging other's opinions or principles means trying to control them. Do you think your best want to be a puppet in your hand? Got the point right!...

NEVER ENCOURAGE A THIRD PERSON CRITICS

There are some secrets, which your best shared with you. Those aren't shared before with anyone. You are able to hear from your best because he/she felt safer in your brain. If you break the trust and share it with the world, then it will open the mouth of a third person. And that third person's involvement will lead to the criticism.

Prevent this from happening.

NO BACKSTABBING

No BACKSTABBING, what you want to say, say it on the face to your best. Even it is like kicking him/her in the face, just say it. Because your open minded expression will be a good trust earning catalyst in your friendship. If you choose backstabbing, it will reflect the same on you in the future.

NO 'PITY PARTY'

Do not try to pity your best, it will be discouraging and feels bad. Pity parties will never holds friends together. Pitying is not a good habit. If you want to help, just proceed with some encouraging words. But, no pitying.

These are the factors to consider while we are with our bests, there are do's and don'ts. Depending upon the situation they also change. One last thing which is a don't is, ARGUMENT ON PAST__this is also a huge enemy. It is a complete waste of time if we engage arguing about the past. It will lead to the judging, past is always a past. If we are digging it, there must be a solid reason to support it. It is to help in the present problem solving or to learn from the past. If the reason lies not in these two, then it is a huge powerful magnet facing same pole.

Now it's your turn, what do you suggest to those who would like to keep their friendship for ages and ages? And what it takes to be called as a Real Friend? Please, share your  views, which are highly appreciated. Thank you :)