We all need friends, good friends who will strengthen us when we are walking through the hard situations. We need them to inspire us and fill the courage either to fight the situation or to defend it.
Nobody would like to stay with the companionship which always keeps us low. When they are around we feel like their presence is draining our confidence levels and there is no juice left to provide us the energy.
If such people are allowed into our lives, behold! It is the first step to ruin your life and decrease the lifespan.
We all need encouragement and inspiration. We love to get noticed with the talents we got and we are willing to get some appreciation from others. But, there are few people in our lives. Who just mock us and discourages us with their words.
When they are around we feel like hell, we can't just avoid them and walk away. They make us feel ill and all their negative thinking impact on our thinking too.
Discouragement is always a dangerous thing. It will kill the next developmental step and prevent a person in trying something new. When you carry a cassette with discouraging records then definitely you will reach no goal.
Our mind always fetches for the encouragement, when this is not possible it attains a state of self-encouragement. And in the absence of encouraging words when discouraging crepts in, it is toxic.
We all may have come across such people. They are not our enemies to hate and not any colleagues to say a bye on face. They are friends, bests and even life partners. If this is seen in a person whom you are going to share your rest of life, then be careful, try to change their attitude otherwise their impact of negativity is intolerable.
These are the pity party groups and people who just discourage you. Some discouragement is necessary to shape ourselves, but if it is in high amount, destruction starts.
Discouragement is like a salt, it is used with some limit to give taste when the limit crosses, food will lose it's taste.
So, why to avoid the negative people with negative thoughts is explained...
- Our brain is like a voice recording instrument. It will record and play it in the future, it saves all. When we allow the devastating discouraging words to hit our ears and then are passed to brain, it will work when we are unconscious and it will show effect on the reality.
- Discouraging people will suck away all the fighting spirit in you with their words. If we allow them much, then they are able to control you without any noticeable difference in our acts. You will become weaker and weaker.
- Problem solving capabilities will be shut down when there is a huge amount of discouragement.
- When they teach/preach and talk about the mistakes you made, guiltiness will enter inside and it will act as an obstacle to our success.
- Healthy and optimistic mindset will be carried away with the discouraging words. When they say something like that, even we ignore at that time. Later, we recap what we heard. It will trouble you much.
- People with such behaviour will always try to dig your past. They are going to remind you of your beast years before, they will remind you of your epic failures. Who wants to get discouraged?
- The success rate in our work falls to ground and the rest of life gets tormented with these words of discouraging people.
How to avoid :
It is not always possible to avoid people who approach us with this kind of attitude. All we have to do is to switch the autobot mode in us. It is like listening and leaving if you allow them to stay in your mind for a long time, then it starts the damage.
Sometimes, people whom we respect a lot also surrounds us with the discouraging environment. Notice such situation and try to free from it. They are our well wishers, they are good, but in this case they are trying to take out all the gas in our balloon. So, take a prevention step.
The most common thing these people do is to rub us with their thoughts and principles. It is all good in their sight, but it is uncomfortable to us.
To avoid them is hard, but we have to make affirmative action. If not we are going to become weak and finally give up on our tries and thereby moving away from our desired destiny.
What happened in my life is disgusting, negativity ruled me for many years. It is me who is with the negative state of mind and fetching for the reasons and excuses to run away from the problems. However, slowly I drifted my mind from getting more influenced by the negativity.
And how I did that is by giving my mind a specific task which includes the problem solving skills. And I applied it everyday, this negative impact was vigorous in me during my college. And with the reality, I learned that nobody will help me and even their pity won’t help me to solve the problem I am in. This realization made me to think practically.
I felt so deeply down when I recall the excuses and complaints I made after each failure. That feeling made me to quit for the pitying glances from people.
And how I did that is by giving my mind a specific task which includes the problem solving skills. And I applied it everyday, this negative impact was vigorous in me during my college. And with the reality, I learned that nobody will help me and even their pity won’t help me to solve the problem I am in. This realization made me to think practically.
I felt so deeply down when I recall the excuses and complaints I made after each failure. That feeling made me to quit for the pitying glances from people.
These discouragements will enervate us, they keep on knocking us down each time we try to get up. Watching, listening and reading are the mediums which carry this virus of discouragement into our lives.
If you are surrounded by such people and trying to get out from their influence. It is never a late, act as you think, immediately!
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