Do's And Don'ts Of Dating

Whether it is you are going on a first date or you may be into regular dates with your loved one at least once in a week. There is an important thing comes first to boys than girls, it is stealing the impression. And for this position, there is a huge competition in our minds. We are not any mentalism experts to read a girl's mind, this is not any hypnosis either. Then, how to make a very first date as the one which is forever a sweetest memory and also how to make every date a successful one.

We are going to see how to  thwart crackups on a first date. And if you are already in love, then you have to strengthen it.

There are over thousands of results on search engines if we type ‘Do's and Don'ts of dating' and of course all are quite useful. There is no point in making this post like it never existed before. This is a compete thought list of a mind, which is not in those makers of posts. Here, many points will coincide with them, but their approach will vary in the application.

Moreover, am neither a relationship expert nor a bona fide therapist. What am going to share here are not the results of any created therapy. These are what I came across in real life and many people are going to agree with this at the end of the post.

No more waiting let's dive in and tackle the date scene.

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One thing we have to keep in our mind on very first date, it is that we are there in process of finding the one this is the one person who is going to be in rest of our life. A forever mate and a life partner.

Do's :

Be open yourself :

When you are able to be open then things will all set right. I don't mean here to have restrictions on your personal life, but when coming to a talk with the one you date, feel free to be open in general things. As this secures your identity in the sight of your partner.

Be kind :

Kindness always keeps us on top. It's really important on how we behave with the lower section of people, if we are too rude and unkind, it's going to be a worst thing ever in a date.

Punctuality :

Nobody wants to wait more than a specific time. When coming to a date, lack of punctuality will be completely out of interest. Don't make your partner to wait for you, more waiting, more toxic for the relationship. Reach out in time and it will benefit the both of you.

Sharing mutual likes & dislikes honestly for better understanding :

As per the super blogger Maitreni Mishra's thought, sharing likes and dislikes is important for better understanding between the two. And that too with honest.

Because when each other are aware of what they like and what they don't, this will help them to avoid things and situations which will rage the fire of fight and mutually they can wish to live together forever.

Listen with care :

A complete attention to what your partner is willing to share with you is helpful to get understand each other. Listening more is a good thing to do, also a good habit. If we listen with care, then we are able to answer back to the questions if asked without any delay.

Ask , ask and ask :

What if it would be like you don't know the full name of the person you are going to have a dinner with? It's really necessary to know some basic details. Nothing going to happen if you shoot the bullet questions which are not of perverting. Ask more and make it sure to remember what the answer is again in the future.

Eye contact :

Am pretty sure that when you both decided to meet each other, there will be no eye disease. So, making an eye contact will not cost you anything instead it will boldly define the type of person you are. Drifting your view here and there will end up in lot of doubtfulness.

Overdressing and under dressing :

Many times it is not a big issue if we overdress. It will hence prevent the under dressing. If you aren't sure what makes you to look cool just go for all the best things you have. Increase the number and it might be additional, but it don't ruin the date as much as under dressing does.

Be honest :

Honesty is a gentleman trait and a sincere lady's DNA. If you are honest towards your partner, it will eventually build the string of relationship more stronger. Being honest is not neglected, your honesty going to honour you someday or the other.

Compliments :

One or two good and positive compliments are highly recommended while you are in the conversations. Whether it's a first date or a hundredth one. A compliment always feels lovely and surrounds the environment with some smiles.

‘Be you' :

Don't scare your partner by pretending that you are living in someone's soul. It will not help you at all. People around us either family or friends wants us always to be ‘us’. There is no need at all to walk into other's shoes.

You are unique and so does your love too.

Don'ts :

Too imaginative :

Imaginations are always comfy, but they are far away from the reality. Sometimes they work and many times they fail. Don't spend much of your time on imagination of the date scenes, they may appear so true in our thoughts and can't be applied when our ‘one' is in front of us. Preplanning is good and it is more far than the imagination.

Don't be too ‘tricky’ :

Tricks to impress will break the bricks in your relationship. If you impress with the help of tricks, they may end one day and you are out of options.

We don't need to try to impress anyone, if someone is liking us, aren't they already into us? Real relationships don't search for the impression.

Don't be judgemental :

If we observe in many conversations with a group, we will see at least some of them are too judgemental. They decide the deeds of others as wrong and they condemn and judge them. If this happens in the case of dating, then I say that relationship is not going to be together for more than six months. If anyone of the two are with judgemental attitude, they have to lose much more in their lives. Because judging is something done when we concentrate more on others. Stay away from such behaviour.

Self-advertisement :

We can call this as boasting. Who want to hear about our achievements and our goals? Everyone (including your partner) want to draw something out from you which is useful to both. This is not any business to make, if we keep on listing our stuff, it will bore the other. Not to go for this on a date, never.

Don't be too phony :

You may be a very busy person and your phone rings in every ten minutes. But, this is not any pride in dating, but a huge distraction. If you keep on multi-tasking, the other will feel that you are neglecting them and paying no more attention. So, avoid seeing that phone for every five minutes.

Don't consider it as ‘easy' :

Dating is never easy, yes it is. Because it is the thing between two identities which are not identical and two hearts which raised up in different environments. Then how can it be an easy thing? Am not saying that you should stick to rehearsals, but do something sort of. It will not let you down. If we think it's easy to move on and manage, we'll definitely end up with something which we'll regret later.

Avoid perfectionist monster :

Don't make your relationship frangible with the tone of perfectionism. As none of us are perfect, searching for perfect boy/girl is common among us all. But, it's ideal. Mistakes are meant to be made by knowingly or unknowingly, learning from mistakes is what our plus.

Don't try to fetch the perfect. Try to find the one who is able to collaborate with you.

If there are more do's or don'ts in your mind on dating, feel free to share it in the comments below. And also share your valuable opinion on this post. Thank you :)