We have taught our boys not to cry, it's time we teach them not to make girls cry.
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India, the home for the tradition. A house of respect and the country which positions women both on high and low. Here, high and low refers to the ways of treating a woman.
Now we are living in a generation, where in every place the safety of a woman is questioned. And unfortunately, her own home became a foe. Not the rogues on roads, not those gangs who continually mocks her while she returns from office. It is her own home which became a worst case scenario.
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The name of this enemy is Domestic violence (Gharelu hinsa) there are many acts against the devil, but still doesn't work for all the cases. Who are to be blamed for these increasing death rates due to the domestic violence? Government? Women? Or is it the society? None of them are to be blamed but one and only one. It is HE, the husband of woman. Who made oaths during their marriage and masked himself with the bloody evil intentions, like dowry.
In some regions, people can only consider a 'man' as a 'man' when he manipulate and control his wife, when he show the complete 100/100 domination on her. Irrespective of her feelings and emotions, he only gains her each and every time. Then the society calls him ' ye, here comes the man' well, let me ask what kind of manhood is that?
Beating up a wife, making her to cry everyday, torturing and tormenting her, insulting her for simple reasons. Is this how the manhood crowns men? Even am a man, I took up here to write because of the extreme action of my fellow men. Oh! Am ashamed of calling them as men.
Some people on streets, comment on the modernised and westernized women. They say that these are the women who adopted the foreign style and they crossed the limits. They run their mouth that dressing is the reason for increment of rapes. They talk over and over on this subject. They go home (maybe drunken) beat wives and slay her, as if she is a toy.
Do you think these men are at least worth to talk about other women in the society. Who doesn't even value a woman at home. Still loving much, preparing food, performing all the duties and handling the entire house's balance? Doesn't these people ever realize that without her the house collapse like hell?
This is the so-called old tradition in every Indian family to treat girl as secondary in preference. And provide mandatory facilities, like education and other activities. And taking a boy as a rookie, the next generation hero. The one who bears it all.
Teaching him, motivating him, in each and every situation he face with the word saying 'YOU ARE A BOY' and not letting him to cry. Coming to the girl, lowering her in her own sight by demotivating with words. 'You must respect husband and his family' 'you should be within the limits' etc..etc..
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Even she is higher educated, the value doesn't stand against her hubby, even he is an illiterate. Am not devaluing any person here, this is just a post to think about.
Her dressing isn't the reason for rape. There are many cases where girls who wear a chudhidar also got raped. Its the eye of a man but not her dress.
It is completely her choice what to wear and which style to adopt. Who questions it?
Domestic violence need to be prevented. I mean to be eradicated, forever. We can only witness those cases which come into light when the woman dares to share. But what about those girls, who are suffering in their own houses and never ever opened their mouth? Who is going to save her from the emotional black-mailing? Those cries die behind the doors itself. Aren't they one of us? Why should they live such a life like a curse?
Marriage is a sacred one, when both are together the pain must pick a sideway. Beating wife is the worst thing in a man's life.
He is not a kid anymore. He need to know how to behave with the opposite gender in the society, he need to know to respect. He need to know keeping himself strong in times of grief besides lifting his partner up. Consider the lifepartner as the true life partner. She isn't a toy, she feels the pain same as us. She has emotions same as us.
Do not bring a time, a time where a women in the society beg for respect. As a human, learn if you don't, ask to know. Get known to others about the domestic violence. Stop it!
She trusted you, she followed you, she surrendered to you. This is not her weakness, but a respect. Do not let her hope fall down.
It's not the perfumes or deodorants that attract her, but a stout character as a real man does.
This is the time to #StartWithTheBoys
A Real Man cannot be one who is insensitive to his family members. Charity begins at home, so does Respect. A thought provoking post.
ReplyDeleteThank you Somali :) I agree with you, it all begins at home.
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