How To Handle A Person Who Is Mad At You - Anger Management

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Anger brings us down and makes us out of control and keeps us away from the listening thing.

As humans, we all do have a bit of anger in us, but in some people it's heavy, as heavy as their weight. When they get mad at us, it's  pathetic. And when we get angry, we do the same with the opposite one. The anger turns the best into fools, it is not with a vision.

Anger changes peoples and their thoughts. When anger hits a person he turns into a lycanthrope. Filled with rage in every pint of blood and a hatred. Most of the times, we are unable to understand why actually the person is mad at us. It may be due to his view on us or maybe any other reason.

This is important for us all to handle an angered person, besides it will help us to cope with our own anger.

Here I am not going to provide any tips to control our anger, but how to handle the person who is angry at us.

Firstly am going to show to those guys who are business men & women, as they routinely worry on how to handle with their angry customers. Here, this infographic will help us out, check this out.

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I pointed especially business people because they have to deal each and everyday with such persons when compared to common people.

Anger management is necessary for all of us, when it comes in the case of an opposition its need to be managed very carefully.

There are two categories of people we have to handle separately when they are mad at us.

1. People who are close to us, like family members, relatives and close friends.
2. People who aren't close to us, like colleagues, customers and strangers.

We can map the danger from the people belonging to the first category, because of the closeness we have with them. We may also have some tricks to calm them down. Only in very rare situations the worst happens when dealing with the first category people.

All the problem lies with the second category. Since we cannot map their behaviour and actions, it will be a difficult task to deal with. Here, we are completely blindsided, knowing not what it comes in a row.

To meet this difficulty and to deal and handle these persons with 70% of success we have to dig deeper. Now, let's see how can we do this.

First of all let's know the reasons which will cause a person to reach the state of anger. But, keep in mind that these are not common among all persons. Depending upon his/her mental state, anger hits them. It's like one man's heaven is another man's hell so we must be ready to read the minds.

Reasons which will make a person angry :

• Due to the perfectionism attitude
• When their planning and thoughts doesn't meet expectations
• Lack of capability and scalability in problem solving
• Situations into which they are in, in their daily routine life
• Nightmares and other beliefs
• Misunderstanding and amateur thinking
• Jealousy, dreaming without a vision
• Also due to health problems and other mental illness.

These are the general reasons which makes a person angry. Sometimes it is too silly. For example, at a coffee shop a person is reading a sports newspaper then another person came in and commented badly about this person's favourite player. This made him angry and they both fought on this. Here, these both guys are strangers, what made them to pick a fight is a bit of common sense. There is no need to argue on that issue as it not going to bring the world down. When he made a comment the other have to ignore it, because it has no importance there. Likewise, we have to learn to ignore such comments in our lives. It may be IRL or in internet.

So, here ignorance can be helpful for us, but not all times.

Here there is a very important thing to consider, ignorance doesn't come all alone, there is a strong commitment and a key to activate this ignorance. That weapon is forgiveness. When we got it all to forgive the other person, then ignorance is free. It follows like a mate with the forgiveness. If we need to ignore we have to forgive first. Otherwise, it will make us mad as we think about the issue all the time in seeking vengeance.

Not all times are same, forgiveness has also got it's own limits. There will be conditions when this fails. Then we have to go for the other option.

When you observe the words of the person are like supplication of fuel to fire, act realistically. Walk away from such people, all they do is to lit a fire and call for help even there is a fire extinguisher. Such persons are not angry people, but they naturally live in acting as they are.

Dealing anger with anger, i.e anger-anger is not good, it can further aggravates problems and creates more roadblocks. Silence is the another weapon we have, silence in some cases will calm down the quarrels. Also it will increase the patience in us and decrease the patience in others (who are mad at us).

Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute - Josh Billings

Let's move on to the next handle, this is interesting, here we are going to take action after a study. Studying the opposite person's mind. Don't panic you don't need any psychiatry, but a little human psychology. When the reason is know for the outburst of the person focus on the weaker section. Try to free the knot with a step by step process. Problem solving is implemented and if and only if the other person listens to you and pays attention, use this.

Remember one thing here, everybody gets angry, it's human nature. If someone isn't angry about something then there is a need to consult a physician. Because this is quite opposite to the humans.

We need to manage the anger, calm down the beast in us and expose the best in us to the world.

Am still learning on how to control my anger, many suggested me many tips. Like counting down, drinking water, meditation, exercise. We need to wisely select the perfect thing to control the anger within us. If an option is going well with the other means not it will be for you too. You are unique, choice is your own.

What do you think about the anger management? And do you have any more information on how to handle the persons who are mad at us?

What are your weapons to beat the anger? Please feel free to share your thoughts & opinions

Thank you :)